When someone we love dies, a funeral can be a space to acknowledge their life and begin the process of grieving. While traditions and cultural practices offer guidance, a funeral can also be deeply personal, reflecting the unique life lived.

Things to consider

Consider what made the person special. Did they love a particular kind of music? Did they find joy in a specific hobby or cultural tradition? Highlighting these elements can create a ceremony that feels true to them.

Incorporating stories and memories shared by loved ones allows the person's spirit to live on in the hearts of those gathered. This can be a powerful tool for navigating grief, fostering a sense of connection and shared experience.

Remember, there's no single "right" way to hold a funeral. The focus should be on creating a space for mourners to find comfort in shared memories and celebrate the life that has passed. Here are examples that people have written to us about that may be helpful to you as you plan personal services for your loved one.

Sarah, The Nature Lover

Sarah's family chose readings and songs that reflect her deep connection to nature. They selected "What is this life if, full of care, We have no time to stand and stare" from W.H. Davies' poem "Leisure." For music, "Morning Has Broken" by Cat Stevens provided a gentle, uplifting atmosphere, celebrating Sarah's love for the outdoors.

John, The Music Enthusiast

John's passion for classical music was honoured with a selection of his favourite pieces. A reading from Beethoven's letters, expressing his love for music, set a reflective tone. The ceremony included Debussy's performance of "Clair de Lune", filling the space with beauty and emotion.

Maria, The Faithful

Maria's strong faith guided her family in choosing readings and songs. A passage from Psalm 23, "The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want," provided comfort. "Amazing Grace" was sung by a family member, highlighting Maria's deep spirituality and offering solace to all present.

Ahmed, The Community Pillar

Ahmed was a beloved community leader. His funeral featured readings that emphasised unity and service. A favourite was a verse from the Quran, "Indeed we belong to Allah, and indeed to Him we will return" (Quran 2:156). The song "You Raise Me Up" by Josh Groban celebrated Ahmed's uplifting presence in the community.

Grace, The Artist

Grace's creativity was celebrated with artistic readings and music. A passage from Khalil Gibran’s "The Prophet" on death, "For what is it to die but to stand naked in the wind and to melt into the sun?" resonated deeply. The song "Somewhere Over the Rainbow" by Israel Kamakawiwo'ole brought a hopeful, whimsical touch, reflecting Grace’s artistic spirit.

Emma, The Modern Minimalist

Emma preferred simplicity and elegance. Her funeral featured contemporary readings and music. A passage from Mary Oliver's poem "When Death Comes" reflected her minimalist philosophy. The song "Hallelujah" by Jeff Buckley added a hauntingly beautiful touch, aligning with Emma's taste for modern classics.

Arjun, The Tech Enthusiast

Arjun was passionate about technology and innovation. His family chose readings that highlighted his forward-thinking mindset, like excerpts from Steve Jobs' commencement speech at Stanford University. The song "Viva La Vida" by Coldplay provided a vibrant and reflective atmosphere.

Aisha, The Cultural Connector

Aisha embraced her multicultural heritage and loved connecting with others through food, music, and stories. Her funeral included excerpts from Rumi's poetry and “We Are Going,” a poem by the Aboriginal Australian poet Oodgeroo Noonuccal.

Sangeeta, The Community Volunteer

Sangeeta dedicated her life to helping others in her community. Her funeral included readings from her favourite humanitarian texts, reflecting her lifelong commitment to service. The song "Bridge Over Troubled Water" by Simon & Garfunkel was chosen to symbolise her role as a pillar of support for many.

Bruce, The Sports Enthusiast

Bruce was an avid sports fan, particularly passionate about Australian Rules Football. His family selected readings highlighting his love for sports, including a tribute from a local sports club he supported. The song "Up There Cazaly" by Mike Brady, an iconic Australian sports anthem, was played to honour his enthusiasm and spirit.

Linh, The Family Matriarch

Linh was the heart of her large family, known for her wisdom and guidance. Her funeral included readings from family members, sharing memories and stories of her impact on their lives. The song "In My Life" by The Beatles was chosen to celebrate her enduring influence and the love she nurtured in her family.

Frank, The World Traveler

Frank spent his life exploring different cultures and countries. His funeral featured readings from travel literature and poems that he loved. The song "What a Wonderful World" by Louis Armstrong was played to reflect his adventurous spirit and appreciation for the world's beauty.

These examples demonstrate how personalising funeral songs and readings can create a meaningful and memorable tribute. Each choice helps family and friends connect with their loved ones, offering comfort and a shared space for remembrance.

For more information and support for funeral planning, chat to Violet via the message box below, register for your Violet Plan, or book to speak with a Violet Guide via the menu links at www.meetviolet.ai