Watch Dr Kathryn Mannix's 'Dying for beginners: a gentle journey' video here
Watch Dr Kathryn Mannix's BBC ideas video here

Dying for beginners: a gentle journey

In modern society, death is out of sight and behind closed doors. Many of us lack direct exposure to the dying process - with all sorts of potential emotional and spiritual consequences for how we grieve our loved ones, as well as how we prepare for our own deaths.

Dr. Kathryn Mannix is arguably the UK’s leading voice on people’s experiences through the last stage of life. A physician and global author, Kathryn has many noteworthy publications and awards. Her books ‘With the End in Mind,’ and 'Listen’ have been published widely. 

Kathryn has spent decades at the bedside of those in the last stage of life. Through her work, she has observed that the process of dying is often much less frightening and more peaceful than many imagine. Kathryn has created videos on the topic, which have been viewed by millions worldwide, and many people have told Kathryn that simply understanding the natural stages of dying can alleviate much of the fear and anxiety surrounding it.

Understanding the natural stages of dying

The last stage of life often involves a gradual decline, where the body slowly begins to shut down. Dr. Mannix compares this process to the stages of sleep, where individuals drift in and out of consciousness, gradually becoming less aware of their surroundings. This natural progression is typically peaceful and free from pain, especially with the support of palliative care teams who manage symptoms and provide comfort.

An example that illustrates this is the story of Mr. Smith and his family. Mr. Smith, diagnosed with terminal cancer, was initially terrified of the dying process. With the help of his palliative care team, he and his family learned what to expect. They were supported in managing his symptoms, creating a calm and comforting environment at home. As Mr. Smith's condition declined, he spent more time sleeping and less time in discomfort. His family was able to be with him, sharing memories and moments of connection, which brought peace to all involved.

Focus on what truly matters

Dr. Mannix emphasises that by demystifying the dying process, families can experience a more positive and meaningful last stage of life. This understanding helps individuals and their loved ones focus on what truly matters: comfort, connection, and the preservation of dignity. By facing the reality of dying with openness and support, we can transform it from a source of fear into an opportunity for deep, compassionate presence.

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